Hello there Tyler,
This issue struck a cord with me because I feel that I have been through a similar situation despite the fact that I have never been married. It seems as though you and your wife have hit a little bit of a rough patch but don’t worry just yet. I don’t detect anything to get too worried about as of now. Here are couple of questions: 1.) Have you spoken to your wife about how you feel the relationship has changed? 2.) If so, was she receptive to talking about the issue at hand? 3.) Are these arguments minor or miniscule?
I am currently in a Psychology class and my professor was just recently teaching us about communication. Communication is KEY in any kind of relationship. “ Good communication enhances satisfaction in relationships”. That is a quote from our class notes along with: “Communication with others is an essential aspect of our lives and has a large impact on our adjustment”. You’ve been married for two years now, believe it or not you are still adjusting to each other. There has to be a way for you and your wife to develop interpersonal communication patterns in which you are both comfortable enough to talk about different issues at hand so it doesn’t end up with her saying “maybe we shouldn’t have gotten married.”
My personal advice: If you are not comfortable confronting her face to face for fear of starting an argument simply write a letter or note expressing how you feel. Allow her to read it without you in the room and let her respond either with a letter/ note. Then discuss how the letters made you both feel. I’ve always felt writing down my thoughts first and then discussing them was a good way to “break the ice” for lack of a better phrase. If you try it, you may be pleasantly surprised by the outcome! Best of luck to you