There are times that I allow my wife's criticism to affect me. Sometimes, I try to work around her concepts of criticism, and change my actions, to match her criticism.
Doing easy things that my wife asks for is a good idea, and questioning or challenging the easy stuff is probably stupid.
But sometimes my wife comes up with a criticism, that blocks me, big time.
I have had the downstairs computers not working for months, since she bought a closing type computer cabinet. I like stuff out in the open, and I am allowing myself to be blocked by the enclosed computer cabinet.
My wife has agreed to let me use a particular room in our house, as my den. She has no reason to go in the room, or to show it to visitors. The door is locked, and she has a key. She has complained that my room I use as a den is sometimes messy, or has unsedemly boxes for sorting old papers, and I have felt blocked, and really have not been using my agreed-upon den.
I have failed to deflect my wife's criticism, but rather I am holding onto the painful remarks that my wife may have made in a casual manner, and allowing myself to be blocked by her communication.
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