by candle » Tue Nov 22, 2011 7:35 am
David Johnson
Nov 20, 2011
Dr. Scott extra credit
I think your wife is not having a problem with going through the procedure
to give you both a chance at a child, but the lack of emotional support.
Many people shut down emotionally. I myself do at times because of fear of
being misunderstood by those I care about. My stress level increases
and I walk away because I feel threatened. Its a defense mechanism.
This is stinkin’ thinkin’. Maybe reading a book on strengthening your
communication skills might help. I find that speaking to each other with
non-threatening words is a powerful tool. Example of this you might say,
I feel, instead of, you make me feel like... What I am saying is consider one
another in your conversation, work on building trust, help each other to feel
safe, validate each other, the walls will come down.
Take time to talk about what your mate has just expressed before jumping
in with your own feelings, but please jump in. Express your emotions in a
healthy way.