I recently caught my wife red handed writing messages on facebook to another guy telling him how she missed having sex with him, and missed cuddling with him... this is now the 3rd time Ive caught her being in an emotional affair. I told her I was leaving her because I could no longer trust her around other men....
I had felt a long time ago that my wife showed signs of molestation and I finally, asked her if she had... Well she went into a big descriptive story of how her father would take her to a friends house with whom they called her uncle at the time, and when everyone left, he would force her to have sex with him.
Now my problem is with all the distrust that i have for her now, I dont know if she is just reaching out for pity (because i threatened to leave her), or if this is a major source of her problem being emotionally sexual with other men.
I was forced to go to a Psychiatrist by the military and he was very rude telling me I should just realize that my wife was "whoring" around and that I should stop sticking up for her and start pointing the finger at her instead of the other guys (with whom which are currently on this deployment with me, so i have to see them every day)
but if this is a problem that I should be worried about, how can I bring it up to her without making her defensive and sounding demanding, because after she first told me, I asked her if she would be willing to talk to someone else to get some help and she quickly responded "No, I dont want to talk, or think about it"
But I will add after I caught her she seems to be moving in the right direction, she deleted her facebook, and has given me her passwords to her other social accounts.