I am sorry that your wife is unhappy with you.
To give your wife more happiness, you might try offering to listeN to your wife uncondtionally, for up to 15 mnutes per day. This will give your wife time to vent, and to think through thoughts that may seem disconnected. I used to try to understad my wife's venting ideas, but it seems to work better if I let her talk about whatever she wants to verbalize.
I made a mistake last week, when my wife wanted to read me some religious materials, and I asked for a break. She did not have anything else to vent about, so I failed to give her her 15 Min. Now, if my wife wants to read to me, for all or part of her daily 15 minutes, I just go with reading also.
Here are some Links to other threads where Husband listening was discussed.
Sleeping in a separate bedroom sound a little abusive. I will also include references that discuss the Boring Baroque Response by Suzette Elgin. This is giving blithering compliments to the abusive partner. The Love Diet is contacting your wife three times a day wtih a compliment, and giving her the opportunithy to talk for 15 Min. I leave early for work, so I have 15 Min, if my wife wants to vent. In the past, i have cut her off from talking as I rushed out the door close to being late.
Recent communications thread with references to 11/10
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=559
Compliments for husbands to give wives during listening sessions:
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477
8th Post Down 15 Min Listening
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen
2nd Post Down 15 Min Listening
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen
3rd Post Down, Gives some phrases for a husband to be encouraging wife to talk.
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen
Husband has wife who says she hates him, Listening discussed:
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen
Post 2, 7 and 12 discuss the Love diet of offering to listen several times a day, even when your wife is usually not interested in talking,
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... light=diet
Thread on Unconditional listening phrases,
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=451
Giving compliments to the Wife as a way to encourage venting.
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477
IMPOLITE REMARKS FROM SPOUSE, HANDLING:
VERBAL ABUSE THREADS
Post No 2 provides suggestions for a wife to deal with verbal abuse from a husband. Post No 12 discusses incorporating Compliments into blithering pleasantries in response to spousal abuse.
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ight=abuse
List of Secrets threads on verbal abuse before April 18, 2010
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ight=abuse
Second post on this thread lists other threads and references on Verbal Abuse:
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ight=abuse
Recent thread on Verbal abuse, with references, Second Post to Husband who was abusive, but whose wife has turned abusive.
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ight=abuse
Compliments for husbands to give wives during blithering Boring Baroque responses to Verbal abuse:
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477
Post back, Good Luck!
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