by IAmTheThinkingWoman » Mon Oct 17, 2011 3:56 pm
When you call your woman, take note of what you are needing from her. If possible-write it down briefly. Then ask yourself what she will be needing from you...also make a couple brief notes. Then start your call with what you will offer to her to meet her needs. When she gets that you are there with her in those mundane daily things like whats happening with the kids, or her job, or her other relationships with friends & family, she will open up to you about them.
You will fill this need of hers - for you to be there for her, be part of her life.
Good listening skills.
You can then ask for what you need. Re-assurance, love, connection, soothing, laughter, hope.
You might find that you get alot of these needs addressed when she tells you about all the mundane details of daily life.
Couple points:
1. Don't try to 'fix' stuff if you can't or she doesn't need you to. If you think she needs it - ask, "Honey, do you need some help with that?"
2. Try to have something to end your conversations with that inspires hope - plans for the future, tender words of love, jokes. Leave feeling like talking to you is something she'll be looking forward to next time.
Stay safe out there...