Hi all. I am new to this forum and would like some imput. I recently (about 1 week ago) discovered that my wife was not happy in our marriage and wanted to separate. Like others that have shared, she indicated that she had tried to tell me this several times but of course I did not listen. I bought the "Secrets of happily Married men" book and started reading. I found it very insightful, almost like the owner's manual for marriage. I immediately began implementing the suggestions. I have taken a more active role in child care, housework, and aiming to please (flowers, letters, making a music CD of songs describing how I feel)
Today she e-mailed me and said everything I have been doing for her is nice, but it hurts her and makes her angry-angry that I did not do this stuff before. She says that she does not believe someone can change so drastically and does not trust that I will continue to do these things. She also indicated that she is angry because she tried to discuss this stuff and I would "shoot her down" On the mitigating side I am still in the home, she has agreed to go to counseling, and says that I am soo cute (yes-so spelled with two "o"s ) she does love me but continues to have these negative feelings about our relationship that will not go away.
Any suggestions on how I should handle this situation? Is this a normal reaction on her part?
By the way, I am 100% committed to saving my marriage. I have been married 5 years and have 2 children (1 is my wife's biological daughter from a previous marriage that I adopted).