by Happinessoneday » Tue Aug 30, 2011 10:38 am
I look at my husband's cell phone as well and it has been through this practice that I have found out some very disturbing things. Even though I have read the emails and texts messages that point to his being emotionally unfaithful, he still denies any guilt, claiming that I misunderstood. It is only because I love him so much that I try to let these things go, but I have finally had enough. Recently I discovered yet another new female's telephone number in his cell phone. In counseling he stated that I should just ask him what I want to know. Well, when I found the new female's name and telephone number, that's exactly what I did. He said she was a friend. When I attempted to ask more questions he grew increasingly aggitated. He did say, however, that she was a friend from college. Okay, that's fine, but why wouldn't you have shared your meeting her with me. I am completely open to most things as long as your honest, but it's when you hide things that I become suspicious. This newest addition to his super long list of female friends doesn't sit very well with me, but this isn't the first female friend that has caused problems in our marriage.
I have resigned myself to the fact that my husband is insecure and needs these female friends to feel needed and important. I think that I am a good wife to him, but I can no longer deal with his constant need for reassurance of his self worth.
Communication is important. Without it a marriage will fail. Try to speak to your husband about what is bothering you. It is important that you pick the right time and use the right tone when attempting to discuss this potentially explosive subject. He should not have a password on his cell phone. What is there to hide?