We have been married 7 years with 2 girls 1 and 4. I have had to take a second job and my wife complains that I don't communicate or pay attension to things in our family life. that I don't care about her or the girls only talking or reacting to things I like, like sports and bodybuilding. She complains work comes first and to me since I am the sole income it comes high on the list because I do it for my family not because I want to work. Still holds everything my family who are 800 miles aways says or does against me. I feel like I have to take her and her family and forget mine ever existed. I want to be able to come home and talk but a lot of the times I am to tired or have so much to do in such little time that it gets neglected. I am schedule orientated person and have suggested that we have certian times that are nothing but married times or family times. but if I don't take the lead in everything it's like it's not going to get done. She says our 4 year old acts the ways she does because she only see's us fighting. I try not to yell because most issues aren't worth the fight. to me providing for my wife and girls is my biggest concern. I am not the best communicator except if it's something I know a lot about. I just want a peaceful house, but at the same time I think it should a joint effort. Any thoughts
Also for background I come from 5 kids and my dad was only home 1 day a week because he had to work to provide for us. I didn't hold that against him and hoped I would never have to do it but life had it's cycles.