I'm 20 years old and have been seeing a 40 year old married man for about 8 months now.
When we first started talking he didn't disclose that he was married just, that his kids mother and him were no longer together.
I had a feeling he was lying to me and after about a month I asked him if his wife and him were still together. Then he reveiled the truth saying they were in the process of getting a divorce and she became very ill with a brain disease. He claims she's disabled in a wheel chair and that she shakes really bad and can't do a lot of day to day things like normal people. He claims he hasn't left her because his kids and that if he left the children would no longer respect him, also he just can't see himself leaving her because of her illness.
I've tried leaving him and he always manages to tell things that make me stay and that I feel a void in his life that his wife can't. Not just that but he basically does whatever I ask of him and doesn't give me issues, so that makes it harder to leave.
Right now we're not on speaking terms because, I explained to him that I'm tired of coming second to everything he has going on. He's always has stuff to do with his kids or its just something. I feel that I have an emotional attatchment to him because this is only the second person I've had sex with. Everyday I continue to feel bad for my actions but find it hard to detatch myself from him and the situation in general.