My husband is not a "guy's guy". He doesn't get along with other guys, he's not into sports, he says he has trouble talking to them. He has had very few male friends over the years. My husband also works in a carpet mill with a bunch of women. He has a friend at work. I have met her. She is married, and she and her family invite ours out. We haven't been able to go yet, the timing is always bad. My husband has never hidden anything from me about this relationship. As far as I know. He did not come home one morning(he works third shift) and when I called to to find out where he was, he was at breakfast with her. I asked why he didn't tell me first, he said it was 7 am on Saturday he did not want to wake me up or the kids with a call. He told me right away where he was.
Those things don't bother me. What bothers me is that when I ask him what it is about her that he likes so much, he says he doesn't know, he just likes her, just likes being friends with her. I asked him if he would quit being friends with her and he said he shouldn't have to, he has done nothing wrong and it isn't inappropriate.
I tend to overreact to things. And early in our relationship (We have been together 10 years), I was hard to get along with and he lost some of his friends because of it. I know I was difficult to deal with, but I am no longer that person anymore, I went through a lot to "grow up" and change who I was.
My question is this. should I worry about this friendship or should I let it go? It is very hard for me. He is honest (as far as I know). She is very pleasant everytime I have spoken to her. She is not attractive (I know that isn't vey nice, but it is relevant to this). And she is married with kids.
I really stuggle with this because of my own issues, but is that all it is or do you think there is something more - something for me to worry about? (The whole "I don't know why I like her, I just do" thing is what I get stuck on, but then again my husband is very bad at communication.) Our relationship is good, we don't fight, we get along. Our only fights are these. Does he get angry because it reminds him of the past or is he hiding something? I want to trust him and 98% of me does, I just can't get past that 2%.
So how do I handle this? If I need to let it go - how? If you think there is more - what then?