by kiji talons » Fri Jul 18, 2008 3:39 am
so i am 27 and was going out with the same girl for just over 4 years, engaged for about a year, and planned on getting married in april. my fiancee broke the news to me two days ago that she loves me, but no longer wanted to get married. at first she brought up the idea of counseling, but the next day she changed her mind saying that she didn't want to have to change me. she said i emotionally was not there for her and emotionally did not make her feel better. she loved me but she said she did not have faith that i could make her happy. i tried to get her to work it out and talked to her for hours but it was to no avail. i even used stuff i learned from this book which i read in less than a day and it didn't help. she is moving out. should i keep in contact with her and talk to her on a regular basis or should i give her her space for awhile. how do i get her to believe in me again when she firmly believes i cannot be there for her emotionally and doesn't want to try and work things out because she doesn't want to give me false hope.