Hello I an new here, I am a 35 yowoman, my husband is 42 and our only son is 16yo. We have been married for 17 years.
Well, I get along wih both quite well, me alone with my husband or me alone with my son...but when we are all together it is very hard for me to feel fine as they both get very critical about each other and husband is 100% of the time complaining about everything our son does.
My son seems to get smaller around the father. He is a good boy, very good and hard working at school, we never had problems like drinking or drugs, he helps me washing the dishes and I think he is a great son.
But my husband is always trying to find any reason to criticize him when we are together. When they are alone at home wihtout me, they barely speak, my son stays in his room with the computer, and my husband watches tv.
I am aware that I have to be very careful enough to be around my son when my husband is at home, because when my husband feels I am on my son´s side he gets even worse with him and also rispid with me. But it breaks my heart to see the boy´s face after a dinner together with us. And of course he began to avoid going out with us to dinner or travel. What is also making me very worried. He is our only son, what will happen when he has his own life? I am afraid he will simply get the more distant he can and never visit us.
They never do things together like playing footbal or things like that. And we are Brazilians...we all love soccer and my son is very good at it.
Well what shocks me even more is that my husband always seemed to like children, when we visit his or my parents or friends who have children he always plays with them, he makes magic tricks and all kind of things he never did to our son.
I love my husband and our son and I get very upset to see this frozen treatment they give to themselves. Is it a past live thing?? I really don´t understand any of that but I have heard this from people I talk about this issue before.
I hope you can give me any light onver this problem, as I feel it will affect my son in a bad way. I wish I could help them.
Viviane