Erectile dysfunction and porn

Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby Nadia » Wed Jan 09, 2013 1:43 pm

Hello
My husband is only 40 yrs old and is suffering from erectile dysfunction. He has been turning to porn because he says he does not feel the pressure to perform in front of me. I told him i dont want to put pressure on him and that we can try new things and take our time when we are intimate, and that it does not have to include intercourse. He still watches porn regurlarly, something he did not do when we first got married and he did not have erectile dysfunction at that time.. I feel rejected and undesired. I also feel guilty, because i know part of the reason is his stress to perform in front of me... I dont know how else i can help him and us... We have two young children of 16 months and two months... But we can always have some time for ourselves...Any advice?
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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby ThunderHorse » Thu Jan 10, 2013 5:19 am

Can you watch porn together?

Can you find ways to have fun when he is soft? Can you find ways to grind a soft penis? Can you just hold him without expecting him to get hard?

Can you find ways to climax. even when your husband remains soft?

Anything you and your husband can enjoy together, while he is still soft?

If your husband does get hard, occasionally, is there a number of days, between when he gets hard again? If he gets hard after 4 days, can you adjust activities to his schedule of when he can get hard again?


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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby agentm » Sun Jan 27, 2013 7:59 am

I have no doubt that regular porn use desensitizes some people. I'm not a doctor or psychologist - I'm the wife of a previously porn addicted husband. Don't watch it together. And insist you won't stay with him if he doesn't work with you to quit. Not everyone is affected *I guess - what do I know* but your husband clearly is as was mine. If you don't do another thing for your marriage and your own self worth tell him he has to stop.
Since my husband quit our sex life has improved three fold. It took time and a lot of patience but we got there.
People always defend porn. I think in this modern age where it is so easily accessible it is the ruination of many a marriage. Don't let it defeat you. Fight for your marriage and try to be patient with each other.
One final thought for you - anyone who watched porn daily would begin to get less and less from it and regular sex. I know because I did it myself as an experiment while working through my oh's problems. I'm not against porn and admit to have enjoyed it myself but it nearly ruined my marriage when I found my husband using it a lot.
Don't watch it together - that is, I'm sorry but terrible advice in this situation
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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby jimmymaxewell » Wed Nov 26, 2014 6:29 am

Most of the men are unaware with root causes of erectile dysfunction. Erectile dysfunction is mostly occurred due the combination of physical and psychological health problems. In addition, aging and lifestyle is also linked with the erectile dysfunction.
Porn addiction mostly contributes the premature ejaculation, but it is observed that it also increases the risk of early erectile dysfunction in men.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby reedgibs » Thu Apr 09, 2015 4:54 am

Erectile dysfunction is a condition characterized by the inability of a man to achieve or hold an erection. The dysfunction can be caused by psychological and mental hang-ups, or the problem might be caused by physical problems. A large amount of research has demonstrated a link between smoking and erectile dysfunction. Men who smoke are one-and-a-half to two times as likely to develop erectile dysfunction as non-smokers. Smoking in men has been linked to erectile dysfunction and lower-than-normal levels of the male sex hormone testosterone. Some studies have even found a connection between smoking and low sex drive.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby ThunderHorse » Sat Apr 18, 2015 5:31 pm

Nadia wrote:Hello
My husband is only 40 yrs old and is suffering from erectile dysfunction. He has been turning to porn because he says he does not feel the pressure to perform in front of me. I told him i dont want to put pressure on him and that we can try new things and take our time when we are intimate, and that it does not have to include intercourse. He still watches porn regurlarly, something he did not do when we first got married and he did not have erectile dysfunction at that time.. I feel rejected and undesired. I also feel guilty, because i know part of the reason is his stress to perform in front of me... I dont know how else i can help him and us... We have two young children of 16 months and two months... But we can always have some time for ourselves...Any advice?


How can you start?

Maybe set aside a marital bedroom date, with porn off before bed time, and some bedroom time before going to sleep, on a certain planned day?

Many men are morning lovers. There is a term Morning Erection. Any way to become more available when your husband is waking up in the morning.

Is birth control an issue?

Is there a step to take to cut porn out for certain time periods of the day? If you can delay lighting up a cigarette for 5 minutes, they say you can stop smoking.

Since you, and many women, would like to feel attractive, it is difficult to ask your husband to cut back on porn, because that is like persuading him that you are attractive.

Are there any ways in which porn is creating other difficulties?

Have you read up on acupressure for lovers? Your husband may be unaware of how much pleasure he can create, even when soft.

There are various ways to define porn addiction. Does your husband want to stop watching porn? Do you feel that your husband is becoming less functional, and that porn is increasingly taking over? What support people can you rely upon, who can assist you with your children, if you need to make a stand? Have you been making the extra effort to keep on good terms with your family? His family?

Porn is usually not a badge of pride. Is your husband counting on you to keep his porn viewing secret from some people?

If you are no longer pressuring your husband to perform, I don't see why you should feel guilty for the past; or for occasional slips in the future. Maybe discuss, and agree, on some realistic objectives for marital relations, with erectile dysfunction, so a sense of fulfillment can be achieved.

In what ways can you boost your husband's Ego? Give him credit for his efforts at work, sports, keeping u with the news, voting, hobbies, yard work, car repairs, etc. THE SECRETS OF HAPPILY MARRIED WOMEN book Chapter 1 is Know Your Husband, and Chapter 2 is Nurture His Needs and Yours. How can you give your husband more recognition? Maximize what you have to trade, for his cutting back on porn.

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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby j121walker » Fri Jul 31, 2015 2:41 am

As per my experience, There is no evidence that porn addiction can associated with the erectile dysfunction. But it can reduce the interest, and men feels less interest in the foreplay.
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Re: Erectile dysfunction and porn

Postby Gladimeir15 » Fri Jan 01, 2016 2:43 am

I am not a medical specialist, but previous researches explained that usual watching of porn caused erectile dysfunction. During porn viewing ejaculation happen moreover, secretion of sperm cell occurs. This should be prevented if such activity is done as part of your sexual activity. There should be open communication, express each others thoughts regarding the matter. Engaged quality time together and indulge on activities that would divert his interest in pornography.
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