My wife and I have been married for two years, we have been together for 11. We met when we were really young. Even though we were young when we met we both were each others firsts when we were in college. We got married just out of college and promptly moved so she could start a very demanding professional program. I had an understanding that she would be very taxed for several years and i was okay with that.
When we first started making love everything was good, and we both enjoyed it. But as our relationship wore on she did not want to have sex nearly as much as i did. But that was okay with me i was very patient and i felt i was being understanding. The year before we got married we both were very busy and we atributed that to our lack of sex. Once we got married it just seemed more of the same, i wanted sex she didn't or felt guilty. But now several years into the marriage she started to have feelings for another man (no cheating ) but sexual feelings for another man. And she is saying that she is having all these sexual fantasies about this person. I understand that fantasies are her own and as long as she is not acting upon them i understand. But its gotten to the point where she is not wanting my contact!! not jsut sex but contact hugs kisses because she says she feels guilty. I don't make her aroused or excited any more. She even mentioned that maybe we should split, but never coming out concretely saying that. She is saying she wants that passion she is feeling for this other person to be with me, but everytime i try to provide contact or intamcy she with draws. We started therapy. I feel lost and a bit scared.