Tyler wrote:http://www.ashrae.org/aboutus/page/150. We need to fix this problem somehow quickly. I need to to know that I do indeed love & desire her.
The men's secrets book devotes two chapters to listening skills.
Men sometimes make the mistake of trying to solve a problem, for which the woman was primarily venting, rather than seeking a solution.
It sounds like you have a rapport with your woman, and she will tell you things that bother her. You feel that her saying she wants to leave is a problem, but it may be a sign that she will share her inner-most thoughts with you, which is an important part of a relationship.
You say she says you don't desire her, but that may be a question, or a test for you, rather than a deeply held belief. You may be treating venting as a problem statement.
What are your respnses to her adverse statrements? can you give good listening skils? How is your blithering compliments for her? You mention a few compliments for her, but you should have more.
Here is a link to a thread on complments for wives
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477
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