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PostPosted: Sun Feb 27, 2011 1:29 pm
by ThunderHorse
Habit control can be developed independently of improving yoru self-esteem

How you go about improving your self esteem can be a separate track.

Affirmations, about your self worth, to review, occasionally, maybe daily is a step toward improving your self esteem.

You have described two habits you can change.

You can avoid over-tightening the food jars. You can stop overly frequently filling her glass with water.

Maybe develop the habit of rinsing outthe jar lid, and loosening it after you tighten, and re-tighten with moderte pressure teh second time. If you think you mihg have over-tighteneed, go through and test eadh food jar.

Maybe purchase a pitcher for ice water, so it can be handy on the table, so either of you can easily access the water pticher.

Many people achieve a feeling of self-worht by making others appear to be imperfect. Your realizing that you have that pattern of looking for or creating imperfrection, is a first step. There is a thread with a list of compliments for your wife.


http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477




Listening, without implied critiscism is another important skill.



Compliments for husbands to give wives during listening sessions:
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477

8th Post Down 15 Min Listening
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen

2nd Post Down 15 Min Listening
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen

3rd Post Down, Gives some phrases for a husband to be encouraging wife to talk.
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen

Husband has wife who says she hates him, Listening discussed:
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... ght=listen

Post 2, 7 and 12 discuss the Love diet of offering to listen several times a day, even when your wife is usually not interested in talking,
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... light=diet


Thread on Unconditional listening phrases,
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=451

Giving compliments to the Wife as a way to encourage venting.
http://www.secretsofmarriedmen.com/phpB ... .php?t=477






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