My anniversary is fast approaching. My wife and I have been married for 8 years. Presently we are more like housemates than a married couple. There is no comunication, intimacy, etc. I have worked individually with a counselor locally for quite sometime. My wife will not go to counseling. Everything I tried to help our relationship has failed. The mere fact that I go to counseling angers my wife. I am obviously very unhappy. At this time my counselor is focusing on seeking happiness independent from my wife. I remain committed to my marriage and family. I have two children whom I would endure anything for.
In the past I have done everything for our anniversary. A Diamond ring. Trips. Flowers. She appreciates none of it. In the past my efforts at celebrating our anniversary have actually caused more strain in our marriage. I have been advised to ingore our anniversary this year. I would appreciate any thoughts you may have on the advisability of this approach. Thank you.